We’ve all heard a superstition at one time or another – whether it’s a black cat crossing your path brings bad luck or a broken mirror curses you for the next seven years. Couples who want everything to go smoothly on their wedding day may be even more inclined to listen to these superstitions, particularly when it comes to picking the right date for the ceremony.
Let’s look at some of the dates you should avoid, at least according to superstitions.
At the top of the list is going to be Friday the 13th. Even if Fridays were a good day of the week for a wedding, most couples would rather not get married on the thirteenth. That day has long been associated with bad luck. In fact, most hotels skip the 13th floor and airplanes seldom have a 13th aisle – this doesn’t necessarily prove anything except that the people responsible know their customers are superstitious.
The connection between bad luck and Friday the 13th supposedly originated in Biblical times. Jesus invited 12 apostles to the Last Supper, but Judas showed up uninvited which made him the thirteenth. Because the actual crucifixion happened on a Friday, the number and the weekday were combined as a sign of something very unlucky.
Of course, there are other days which are viewed as unlucky in other cultures. In Japan, for example, April 4th is considered particularly unlucky because the Japanese word for “four” resembles the word for death. Since the fourth by itself is already unlucky, when it appears in the fourth month, the potential for disaster is said to increase.
While the rest of April may be fine for weddings, not all months are considered a good choice in Western cultures for weddings for the superstitious. In fact, May is thought to be the most unlucky. The reason goes back about 2,000 years to the ancient Romans who viewed the month of May as a time for mourning the dead and making offerings to them. Since the month was associated with death, it was not viewed as a good time for weddings.
In fact, May may not be the only bad choice. An old superstitious rhyme cites January, October, March, and – not surprisingly – April are listed as unlucky months for weddings.
Even if you don’t buy the idea of an entire month being superstitious, what about certain periods of time? Originally, Catholic Churches prohibited couples from getting married during Lent, which lasts from Ash Wednesday to Holy Saturday, or during Advent – basically the four week period before Christmas Eve. For this reason, married couples still associate Lent and Advent as bad times to get married. You’re probably better off avoiding Christmas Day, Easter Sunday, and Good Friday, too since all of these religious holidays are thought to be unlucky for weddings.
If you’re superstitious, you now know which months and time periods to avoid, but what about days of the week? Even choosing whether to get married on a Saturday or a Tuesday can be governed by superstition.
You can find plenty of old rhymes which will “warn” you about the dangers of certain days. Although two days of the week consistently seem to come up as unlucky – Thursdays and Saturdays. While Thursday may not be a big loss in terms of wedding date options, Saturdays are the most common day of the week for weddings. The old belief was that when two people were married on a Saturday one of them would die young – not the best thought to have in mind while you’re saying “I do.”
Fridays, in general, are supposed to be unlucky for many types of ceremonies and celebrations; however, they are said to be fine for marriage because of the protection from Freya, a Norse goddess.
When it comes to selecting the best date for the wedding, you already know to avoid the 13th and possibly the 4th, but you should also not get married on the same date as either of your birthdays. That means if one of you was born on May 11th and the other was born on June 30th, you’d want to avoid the 11th and the 30th of any month. Otherwise, your wedding might end in misfortune.
Of course, even if you take the time to pick just the right date so you don’t break any of these superstitions, you might not escape the curse of bad luck, especially if you’re getting married in the rainy season. Rain and storms near to the time of the wedding has long been a sign of bad luck for the couple. On the other hand, seeing a rainbow or having sunshine on the day of your wedding is a good omen.
You might surmise from all of these superstitions that June is still the best time to get married. Because it takes place at the start of the summer, you stand a good chance of having sunshine. Plus, June is the sacred month of the Roman goddess Juno who watched over weddings. Ironically, her mythical marriage to Jupiter was a bit rocky, but when you’re choosing a wedding date you can’t have everything.