Birthday Invitation Etiquette for Grown-Up Parties

Children’s birthday invitations sometimes involve plenty of etiquette issues, but it doesn’t get much better when you’re all grown up and wanting to throw a party. Below is some advice on two common birthday invitation issues you might face.

The Pay Your Own Way Option

CocktailsWith more families being on a budget these days, it’s difficult to cover the costs of a big dinner at a restaurant for all of the guests. At the same time, it’s not easy to let guests know they are expected to pay for their own meals. What’s the best option?

For starters, you need to know what etiquette rules say. Basically, if you invite someone to dinner, a movie, a party, or anything else then you should foot the bill. It’s that simple. There’s no good way to get around that on your invitations. If you’re on a budget, then consider choosing a less expensive restaurant or meeting for dessert instead of dinner. Keep the invitations simple. The Birthday Blowout Invitations or the Candle Light Invitations are both good choices.

Another option is to simply send a note to the family members instead of an invitation letting them know that you’ll be dining at such and such restaurant to celebrate the guest of honor’s birthday. Let them know they are welcome to join you. That type of “invitation” is appropriate if you want them to cover their own costs.

Questions about Alcohol at Parties

If you’re throwing a grown-up party, then alcohol is likely to be an issue and it’s something you should definitely think about. In many states, if you serve alcohol at a party and one of your guests is involved in a drunk driving accident you can be held partially responsible for that accident. That’s one reason why so many parties are B.Y.O.B. (Bring Your Own Beer) – it takes some of that legal responsibility off of the party’s host.

With that in mind, some party hosts don’t want alcohol at the party at all. They may want to have more of an all-ages party, they may have guests who have alcohol problems, or they may just prefer sober guests. Whatever the reason, if you don’t want alcohol brought to or served at your party then it’s a good idea to let your guests know that beforehand. It’s also a good idea to have your party in the late afternoon or early evening – the later the party the more likely it is to involve alcohol.

In any of these cases, it’s perfectly fine to include the information on your invitations: “Alcohol Served,” “B.Y.O.B.,” or “No Alcohol Please.”

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