Did you work hard to find out which guests were attending the bridal shower, only to find out on the day of the party that two guests took the liberty of bringing a friend or relative to the party without telling you? Follow these easy tips so you won’t worry if you see an extra face or two at the bridal shower party.
Plan for the Unexpected
If you’re planning a sit-down luncheon or bridal shower tea, then you’ll likely have a pretty firm guest list in hand so that you can set the table with place cards and have the right amount of place settings already once the guests begin to arrive. What happens if your bridal shower party for 12 turns into a bridal shower party for 13, 14 or even 15 people? This can understandably put you in an awkward place, especially if you’re forced to rearrange and use mismatched plates, cups and silverware plus a folding chair to make up the difference.
When you put a lot of effort into setting a beautiful table, it can feel like a devastating blow to have to alter it because an inconsiderate guest brought an extra person. If you plan for this ahead of time, however, you can easily accommodate the extra bodies without breaking a sweat. This is especially important if the bride is the culprit who brings an out-of-town friend or relative without telling you. Oops!
Simply set aside up to three extra place settings, as well as three blank place cards that you can easily fill in should extra guests arrive. Also have a plan for extending the table so that everyone will have a place to sit. Usually, you don’t prepare food for each plate, so you should always plan for people to eat more so that any extra guests won’t starve.
Handling Unexpected Guests With Grace
You might feel like wringing the neck of guests who simply bring a friend or for a guest who responded with regrets but later decides to show up without calling. Although these guests are technically in the wrong, it’s up to you, the graceful hostess, to accept these faux pas with a smile. The easiest way for you to do this is to be prepared for unexpected guests. It doesn’t happen very often, but it’s always better to be ready than to be caught off-guard.
You should also have a couple extra favors in case this happens because often it’s not the extra guest’s fault, but the person who brought a friend. Don’t let the out-of-town relative or friend feel like a burden or a pariah at the bridal shower party, but make an effort to include that person so she doesn’t feel ill at ease or like she isn’t welcome.
If you’re able to do this, even if you’re seething inside, the bride will be eternally grateful for accommodating her friend’s mistake, and you won’t sacrifice the entire bridal shower party’s festive mood just because there’s an unexpected guest or two. Get out those extra place settings and prepare for the unexpected. Who knows? You might even make a new friend.