So the big day is coming up and you’ve got a lot of work ahead of you. Your wedding day, is after all, one of the most important days in your life. So you want everything to be perfect, which means that every detail needs to be considered. One of the first major steps you’ll need to take is to prepare the invitations. Of course, as with everything else, there is proper etiquette to consider when arranging wedding invites. An important question to address is how you’re going to deliver your invitations.
A Tough Choice
Most people will opt to ship them all out by post. It’s fast and it’s convenient; however, you shouldn’t consider it your only option. To add a more personal touch, you can choose to hand deliver your invitations. Do note, though, that proper etiquette dictates mailing as the preferred delivery method. That being said, traditionally, wedding invitations were hand delivered by the bride’s footmen who would go to each invitee’s house and deliver the good news on a silver tray.
Many brides are keen to follow this tradition; it’s more intimate and personable. Your guests will appreciate the time and trouble it took for you to actually go to their houses to share the happy news. Should you choose to hand deliver your invitations there are some basic ground rules to follow.
When handing out the invitations, carefully consider whom you are going to invite; this may sound obvious, but you do want to avoid delivering invitations in the presence of those who are not invited. This may lead to hurt feelings and an overall awkward situation for all involved.
When’s the Wedding?
Of course, another important consideration in this matter is the date. If you’ve put it off, personally handing invitations to your guests is the most plausible solution. However, if you’re not in a hurry, according to etiquette, invitations should be delivered at most six to eight weeks ahead of time; nonetheless, as hand delivered mail doesn’t need to go through the postal system, you can hand out the invitations as late as a month before the wedding—do not wait any longer though as this would be considered poor etiquette. If you’ve planned a destination wedding, give guests enough time to make travel arrangements. So, remember, not too late, but not too early either.
Remember to include an RVSP at the end of each invitation; also be sure to include the response card within the invitation.
Finally, invitations should always be addressed by hand; think of it this way, if you’re going to take the time to hand deliver, you shouldn’t think twice about writing out the address. Although it may seem like a chore and your hand will probably ache for a few days afterward, using labels would be far too impersonal. Etiquette dictates that you address each envelope in black ink; additionally, you shouldn’t use abbreviations, although it has become more accepted to abbreviate titles (e.g. Dr., Mrs., etc.).